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Maggie and I host a weekly podcast called Around the Table. You can listen on our website, in iTunes, or with your favorite podcast app!

In this episode, we talk about “30 things to do before turning 30″ and compare notes on our own personal bucket lists. We also discuss option overwhelm and how to avoid having too many choices. 

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What you’ll hear:

  • We compare bucket lists and share stories of sky diving, skinny dipping, and cross country road trips.
  • Why not to ride in an elevator with Maggie.
  • How Jacey and her husband (Mike) used a communal celebration to thank their friends and family for supporting Mike’s PhD journey.
  • We discuss how motivation and time management are influenced by option overload.
  • Tips on how to overcome option anxiety.
  • Decision fatigue: what is it and how does it affect your ability to make choices?
  • How habit and routine affect our decision making.
  • The negative effects the social media “menu of people” has on dating culture today.

Can I quote you on that?

  • “I don’t know how anyone gets out of there without wetting their pants…I know I didn’t.” – Jacey
  • “Traveling alone was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.” – Maggie
  • “That’s the paradox of choice- that we think more choices are going to make us happier, but they actually don’t.” – Jacey
  • “When we have to make a lot of decisions, we’re probably not making the best decisions.” – Jacey
  • “Establishing habits and routines makes it more difficult to be overwhelmed by options.” – Maggie

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You don't have to make something of yourself

If I had to pin down the main reason for work related stress in my twenties, it would be that I wrapped up too much of my identity in what I do.

Since graduating college, work has been a source of angst. Correction: self imposed pressure and misplaced priorities have been a source of angst, and I thought my particular job was the source.

All of the general angst and particular fears swirled around one deeply rooted belief: that I needed to make something of myself.

If you want to drive yourself crazy, wrap your identity in a nebulous, hazy, self serving goal.

Does career success look like making a certain amount of money, or garnering respect from peers, or making a difference in the world, or publishing a book, or working a certain number of hours or getting paid to do something you’re passionate about, or having margin for free time, rest and relationships?

Over the past few years, I’ve looked to all of these metrics to define career success. Enter the stress of trying to achieve all of these conflicting goals, none of which are the point.

Work can be a place to feed our egos, or it can be a place to serve. If my identity doesn’t depend on making money or being recognized or having time to clean my house, then I’m free to use what I’ve been given for the glory of God and the good of my neighbor. Sometimes that means paid work, and sometimes that means setting work aside for a friend that needs to talk.

Back to those measures of success. They aren’t evil. To do our best work, we need goals. What I’ve learned about myself is that setting goals isn’t enough; I also need to be honest about what’s behind the goals.

Am I seeking applause and recognition? Are my financial goals intended to provide security in my savings account instead of in God? Do I want to work a certain number of hours so people think I’m hardworking and important?

Goals that spring from a self serving, egocentric place will never satisfy, even if we achieve them. When we forfeit the complete identity God already gave us in search of something more immediately gratifying, we’ll never be happy with the substitute.

Lest you think this is all behind me, that my goals are all selfless now – a few weeks ago, in a conversation with my husband amid much handwringing, I expressed a pressure I felt to “prove myself” to him and the world.

Mike’s response put me in my place in the best way:

“None of us care what you can prove to us. We only care how much you love us.”

Let’s make goals that enable us to love better, not self centered goals that turn our attention away from the worthy call to love. Let’s make plans not under the compulsion to make something of ourselves, but to make much of Him.

will you be my mentor

Maggie and I host a weekly podcast called Around the Table. You can listen on our website, in iTunes, or with your favorite podcast app!

In this episode, we play a quick fire round of 25 questions for 25 episodes, discuss the importance of mentors, and answer a listener question about the difference between a dietitian and a nutritionist.

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What you’ll hear:

  • How we (try to) keep ourselves from dominating a conversation
  • The areas of our lives we’re most intentional
  • Different types of mentors worth seeking
  • How mentors inspired us and changed our lives
  • Ideas for finding a mentor when you don’t know where to start
  • The concept of “mentors from afar”
  • The difference between a dietitian and nutrionist
  • What to look for in a dietitian as a patient
  • What Maggie thinks about coconut oil from a dietetic perspective

Can I quote you on that?

  • “I’m just a hot tornado mess of smells.” – Maggie
  • “A mentor is someone who’s a few steps ahead of me in a certain area, and is willing to lend advice, support, and connections or resources.” – Jacey
  • “Before you look for a mentor, you’ve got to know yourself and your goals.” – Maggie
  • “Start moving. If you’re waiting for someone to come along and hold your hand, you’re going to be waiting for a long time. Resources tend to show up once you’re already in motion.” – Jacey

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Totally natural.

I built my first capsule wardrobe last fall, and it worked brilliantly. I committed like I commit to most things once I’m convinced: 100%. And then I did the other thing I do: start telling people. It was only a side benefit that I could realize my dormant dreams of posing like a magazine model.

So that’s what this post is: me showing you a few pieces of my winter capsule wardrobe we didn’t capture in the first post. If you are interested in the what, why and how of capsule wardrobes in general, check out the first post.

If you’re interested in a twenty something woman’s mostly casual outfits, scroll down.

All photos by @jensane

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This top is from the Loft outlet last year. Black skinnies are from a fall Stitch Fix, and leopard print flats from the Steve Madden outlet.

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The bow in the back!!

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The top is from Nordstrom from my fall capsule, skinnies are Stitch Fix (same as above,) and boots are Steve Madden from my fall capsule.

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Sweater from J. Crew, dress from Brickyard Buffalo flash sale, belt from Popbasic, shoes same Steve Madden ones as above.

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{not meant to be a boob shot} I just love this J. Crew outlet necklace and Popbasic belt so I asked Jen to get a close up of them!

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Sweater from J. Crew last year, jeans from J. Brand at Anthropologie (and carried over from fall capsule.)

I haven’t felt at a loss for outfits, even with a minimal wardrobe. It’s simpler and less overwhelming to get dressed in the morning. Now time to start daydreaming about warmer weather and making a spring capsule Pinterest board!

Do you have questions or experience with a capsule wardrobe? 

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Maggie and I host a weekly podcast called Around the Table. You can listen on our website, in iTunes, or with your favorite podcast app!

In this episode, we discuss the importance of discipline in a balanced life, what we wanted to be when we grow up, and the correct pronunciation of ‘Nutella.’

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What we talked about:

  • Sacrifice vs. Reward
    • Discipline (especially as it pertains to exercise and healthy eating) in order to reap the rewards.
    • The social stigma attached to making sacrifices for your health and the reward of exercising self-control.
    • The vulnerability of making lifestyle changes.
    • Viewing your eating habits through a 90/10 lens – 90% of the time you’re eating to fuel your body, 10% of the time you’re eating for pleasure.
    • What we mean when we say ‘balance.’

“One of the marks of a certain type of bad man is that he cannot give up a thing himself without wanting everyone else to give it up.”
- C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity

  • What we want to be when we grow up.
    • I wanted to be a teacher, a famous author, and lawyer. Maggie wanted to be a poet, a veterinarian, and a sportscaster.
    • We share our journeys of how we got to where we are now.
    • Advice or encouragement we would give someone just graduating from college.

 

What we said:

  • “Our culture has become repellant to things that require us to make sacrifices…we’ve lost sight of the reward that comes at the end.” – Maggie
  • “Self-control is a fruit of spiritual, mental, emotional maturity.” – Maggie
  • “Because we view food as this thing that is pleasurable and as something we’ve earned or deserve to enjoy, we have a harder time being disciplined with it.” – Maggie
  • “Because our culture takes things to such an extreme, if you say you’re on a diet, people are automatically going to think of a crash diet.” – Jacey
  • “We also have to be willing to be in our own lane and make our own choices without having to lord it over people.” – Jacey
  • “Balance looks like being aware of your whole person…not sacrificing physical health for the sake of the mental or emotional (or vice versa).” – Maggie
  • “Balance to me is deliberately choosing priorities and then making time/room for them.” – Jacey (from the ‘About’ section on her blog, The Balanced Wife)
  • “I’m eating a raw kale leaf in one hand and dismembering a gingerbread man with the other.” – Jacey
  • “I wanted to be loved and admired the way my teacher was…and in charge.” – Jacey, on wanting to be a teacher.
  • “Give yourself grace to get where you are going at the pace you’re supposed to get there.” – Maggie’s advice for someone graduating from college.
  • “You don’t have to make something of yourself…your resume is not your identity…the value you bring to the world is based on who you are and who you were created to be.” – Jacey’s advice for someone graduating college.

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